Month: January 2012

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12 Things that Happy People Do Differently

#2 Cultivate Optimism

Optimistic people have the ability to manufacture their own optimism.  No matter what the situation, failure is seen only, or most often, as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People, who think optimistically, see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times. Some people are naturally born optimistic, some people become more pessimistic through negative life experiences and some people need to learn how to cultivate optimism. Either way, you can learn!

We all experience set backs in life. Next time you do, use this as an opportunity to cultivate your ability to be optimistic.

  • Practice being a “benefit finder” rather than a “fault finder”.  Ask yourself if there is another way to look at this situation? Practice, practice, practice is the key!
  • When you have time, check this book out, “Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life” by one of my favourite Psychologists, Dr. Martin Seligman.


“The pessimist cultivates ‘helplessness’, hopelessness, de-motivation and unhappiness, and creates more self-fulfilling prophecies of failure” Martin Seligman

  

Source:Lyubomirsky, S. (2002). Why are some people happier than others? The role of cognitive and motivational processes in well-being. American Psychologist, 56, 239-249.

  

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Food for Thought Mondays…starting your week with perspective

What does this quote mean to you? How do you think you will use the wisdom of this quote this week?

Feel free to email me your comments and I will post them on the blog with your permission (name or no name) heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

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First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.

Epictetus

Success Coaching @ Mohawk College Blog Entry #30

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Theme: Independence – Get Going!

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First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.

Epictetus 

Associated eLearn Module:  Independence

Have you ever taken a moment and stopped to think about who you want to be in this life? Most people don’t. Most people just accept that this is all that they are and all that they are capable of. From my experience as a counsellor, I am amazed on a daily basis how people can set goals for change and improvement and succeed, even in the most difficult situations! The best advice I can give you is that you need to be in a place where you are prepared to “Show Up in Your Own Life” so that you can be ready to change, set some goals and work very hard to achieve those goals. It is hard work to really be the main character in your own life, to take full responsibly and dig in; but it is what it takes to change. You don’t have to settle for the way things are going; think bigger than that because you deserve to live a full life with all the personal success. 

Today…here are some tips to get you started…

Three Ways to Start Showing Up in Your Own Life Today:

  1. Stop Comparing Yourself with Others: This is never helpful. When you compare yourself with others, all you are comparing is what they let you see. You have no idea if they really feel as confident as they look. Focus on what you do well, your goals and what is working for you.
  2. Release what is no Longer Serving You: If you find that you have a particular pattern of doing things that is not working, learn and try new ways. You can take a workshop to improve your skills, you can Google tips that other people suggest and you peruse some of the eLearn modules that I have developed 😉
  3. Make the Best of Unplanned Moments: Often we can find ourselves in situations that we did not plan for. Having to wait longer for appointments, having to wait longer for a ride home, having to stop and help someone in need. Use these times to shut your nagging head off, put aside the thoughts that tell you that you need to be somewhere else and savor the moment. Fully immerse yourself in what is happening now, you may find that you learn something new about yourself and what you are capable of 🙂

Show Up in Your Own Life!

 Remember to sign up for the eLearn modules by clicking on the SELF REGISTRATION link on your eLearn home page. I have more hints, tips and tricks that can help you stretch and grow in the area of Independence. Come on! Join me in this “become the best version of “you” journey!

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach @ Mohawk College

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

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12 Things that Happy People Do Differently

#1 Express Gratitude

When you take a moment to notice and appreciate what you have, what you do have increases in value.  Also, taking time to recall what is going well in your life and the positive aspects makes you fall under the spell of the psychological phenomena “The Recency Effect”. You are able to recall and use information that comes at the end of a list rather than the middle. If you have been focusing on the negative aspects of your life that is what you remember most. It is hard to be happy if you are not even aware of what there is in your life to be happy about and grateful for! Tell someone else what you are grateful for because taking time to tell or teach others helps us process the information better.

Source:Lyubomirsky, S. (2002). Why are some people happier than others? The role of cognitive and motivational processes in well-being. American Psychologist, 56, 239-249.

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Food for Thought Mondays

What does this quote mean to you? How do you think you will use the wisdom of this quote this week?

Feel free to email me your comments and I will post them on the blog with your permission (name or no name) heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

Success Coaching @ Mohawk College Blog Entry #29

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Theme: Self Actualization

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                             “One must still have chaos in oneself

                          to be able to give birth to a dancing star”

                                             Friedrich Nietzsche

 

To learn More about building your skills in this area,

check out this eLearn Module: Self Actualization

 

Self Actualization is all about living up to your full potential. This is a lifelong process, but you will know when you are on the right path by the excitement you feel about what you are learning, doing and setting goals for. When you are on the right path, you will feel energized, motivated and a sense of self-satisfaction. Okay, have I sold it to you!??! I know it is hard work, but it is so worth it.

 

Often the one of the reasons why students don’t feel this way is because they are stuck in a cycle of procrastination, which has many causes. People will procrastinate because they haven’t learned the skills needed to follow through, they may be perfectionists which can create so much pressure that people avoid the task, some students fear failure or disapproval and some students wait to “feel” motivated.  It is important to figure out when you tend to procrastinate, what task types and why you think you tend to put things off.

 

Check out the Procrastination Questionnaire to help guide your thinking around when, what and why you procrastinate.

 

Today…

 

Here are 5 quick things to start doing today to help with your procrastination…

 

1.      Create the Right Environment for You:  figure out where you have the least amount of distractions and the most motivation. Try to make it a habit to complete your work in that environment. Many students find it easier to get their work done at school rather than home because home has come to symbolize rest and relaxation.

2.      Figure Out What Works for You: use the successful study strategies that you have already learned; and, always take the time to participate in Study Skills Workshops offered at Mohawk to build more. Click Here for more info about workshops this semester!

3.      Why Are You Procrastinating? This is an important thing to explore about yourself so that you can start working on strategies. Take the Procrastination Questionnaire to find out more specifically why you procrastinate.

4.      Find a Study Buddy or Accountability Partner: we are so much more effective when we try to avoid letting other people down. It is easy to let yourself down…there are no witnesses!

5.      Focus on the Benefits of Working on Procrastination: Procrastination interferes with your academic and personal success, and it creates unnecessary stress in your life. It also adds pointless, and detrimental, emotions to your life experience such as guilt, feeling inadequate, depression, low self worth, etc. Also, visualize how good, and relieved, you will feel when the unpleasant task is done. Sometimes this is the only way; just plow through it so that you can feel better. If I waited until I felt like doing something, I would rarely get anything done!

 

“One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star” is so perfect for procrastination. Yes, you are going to struggle at times, not want to do things, not believe that you are capable; but the most important thing to remember is that these feelings are necessary for you to push yourself further and find out what you are capable of!

 

Do it! Really, it is worth rising further than you expected!

 

Remember to sign up for the eLearn modules by clicking on the SELF REGISTRATION link on your eLearn home page. I have more hints, tips and tricks that can help you stretch and grow in the area of Self Actualization. Come on! Join me in this “become the best version of “you” journey!

 

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach @ Mohawk College

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca