Month: March 2012

Success Coaching @ Mohawk College Blog Entry #38 – Social Responsibility

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Theme: Finding your Life Purpose – Sharing Your Skills with Others

eLearn Module:  Social Responsibility Module

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“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do”  Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple

The easiest way to change the world, even a just a little, is to work within your purpose in life. To find your life purpose you have to live your life purpose first.

Today…Try this “Pride Exercise”

Create 4 Columns with the following headings: Accomplishments, Activities, Skills and Knowledge and Sources of Excitement. See the descriptions below.

Accomplishments: 

Identify the things that you have done in your life that are a source of real pride for you. Pick 3 top 10 examples of where you achieved something that you were proud of and where you truly enjoyed yourself in the process, and list these under “Accomplishments”.

Activities:

In this column, list the things that you do or did that led you to the Accomplishments that you listed.

Skills and Knowledge:

In this column, list the skills that you had to use or develop in order to complete the activities described as Accomplishments. Take particular note of the skills you used in more than one of your accomplishments because these are your strengths. Also, take note of the skills and knowledge that you enjoy using the most and that you would like to use in your future work.

For some help with this list check out this great resource that highlights the Employability Skills that employers are looking for.

Sources of Excitement: 

Reflect on what excited you about the Accomplishments that you have listed? Your sources of excitement give you insight into your interests and values.

This exercise will help you to determine what gives you pride and will be a visual assessment of what your purpose in life is. It is sometimes helpful to verify your self-understanding with others who know you well. Share the strengths, interests and values that you have identified. People who know you can help you expand your lists.

Get started today exploring what your life purpose is and make a difference in the world that you live in! 

Remember to sign up for the eLearn modules by clicking on the SELF REGISTRATION link on your eLearn home page. Take the Social Responsibilityfrom the eLearn Module under the same name and check out the rest of the module because I have more hints, tips and tricks that can help you stretch and grow in the area of Social Responsibility. Come on! Join me in this “become the best version of “you” journey!

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach @ Mohawk College

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

12 Things that Happy People DO Differently – #9 Happy People Commit to Their Goals

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12 Things that Happy People Do Differently

#9 Happy People Commit to Their Goals

Being wholeheartedly dedicated to and focused on doing something that is important to you can become such a powerful force that can be generalized throughout your life.  Amazing things, such as developing a stronger sense of confidence and competence, start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere.  I think the two most important qualities of success are focus and concentration. Focus means knowing exactly what it is you want and concentration means having the discipline to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing until it is complete. That is the difference between people who are successful and those who struggle in this area.

For a little help getting started, check out my link to S.M.A.R.T Goal Setting (PDF) to get you moving!

12 Things Source: Lyubomirsky, S. (2002). Why are some people happier than others? The role of cognitive and motivational processes in well-being. American Psychologist, 56, 239-249.

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Some rules are made to be broken. Just think about all the social advances we have made as humans, over the past 100 years, that have made us more compassionate and resilient.

ALSO…

Some of your personal “rules” may be holding you back from being successful. Learn to examine your “Shoulds” and check out the Reality Testing module in your Mohawk College eLearn portal under Success Coaching @ Mohawk College.

or Click Here for the Reality Testing Tip Sheet (PDF of the Module)

Success Coaching @ Mohawk College Blog Entry #37

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Theme: Interpersonal Relationship – Why Other People Irritate Us


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“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”  Carl Gustav Jung


eLearn Module: Interpersonal Relationship Module


As a counsellor, I am seeing loads of stressed out students these days which is completely normal given the time of year in the academic calendar. So, if you are irritated you are normal! Everything seems to have a due date that is NOW! Ugh! With stress in the academic air, people are much more irritated than normal. But…there is a more productive way to approach this time of year. This is one of the secrets of successful students; learning to use their emotional reactions as information for change, or to implement a well used strategy, rather than just reacting.


The presence of people in your life, whether it is a classmate, family, friends or even professors, all provide valuable information about you as a person and student by simply being in your life and you reacting to their presence.


Use this information from your interpersonal reactions to learn more about yourself!


Today…Start Exploring Your Irritation…

1.  Next time you interact with someone, notice how you are feeling physically (e.g. knot in your stomach, muscle tension, rigid posture, aggressive stance, inner shaking) and emotionally (e.g. anxious, upset, irritated, annoyed, jealous, impatient).

2.  Ask yourself what you can learn from this person; what is he or she doing that upsets me?Apply that information to yourself and ask, “How am I similar to that?”

3.  Observe yourself in different situations or ask someone you trust if you don’t readily see it.

4.  Sometimes, after you have analyzed the emotional impact, you may find that you simply need better boundaries with this person (come see a counsellor here at Mohawk to help you with establishing healthy interpersonal boundaries that contribute to your success)

 

Often, realizing that we may do the same thing as another person helps us de-escalate our irritation and replace it with understanding. Living with a lower irritation level can have such beneficial side effects such as lowering the amount of times you feel overwhelmed and incapable of coping with your academic load.

 

Remember to sign up for the eLearn modules by clicking on the SELF REGISTRATION link on your eLearn home page. Take the Interpersonal Relationshipfrom the eLearn Module under the same name and check out the rest of the module because I have more hints, tips and tricks that can help you stretch and grow in the area of Reality Testing. Come on! Join me in this “become the best version of “you” journey!

 

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach @ Mohawk College

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

 

 

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Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves

Carl Gustav Jung

12 Things that Happy People Do Differently – #8 Happy People Nurture Their Social Relationships

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12 Things that Happy People Do Differently

#8 Happy People Nurture Their Social Relationships. – The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships. 

“students who have close, positive and supportive relationships with their teachers will attain higher levels of achievement than those students with more conflictual relationships. If a student feels a personal connection to a teacher, experiences frequent communication with a teacher, and receives more guidance and praise than criticism from the teacher, then the student is likely to become more trustful of that teacher, show more engagement in the academic content presented, display better classroom behavior, and achieve at higher levels academically” American Psychological Association

So…

Make an effort to get to know your professors, get engaged in what you are learning by showing up to class, asking questions, participating in eLearn discussions…let your professors get to know you!

12 Things Source: Lyubomirsky, S. (2002). Why are some people happier than others? The role of cognitive and motivational processes in well-being. American Psychologist, 56, 239-249.

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