Month: September 2014

15 Areas of Emotional Intelligence – Definitions

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Self-Perception Realm

Self-Regard is respecting oneself while understanding and accepting one’s strengths and weaknesses. Self-Regard is often associated with feelings of inner strength and self-confidence.

Self-Actualization is the willingness to persistently try to improve oneself and engage in the pursuit of personally relevant and meaningful objectives that lead to a rich and enjoyable life.

Emotional Self-Awareness includes recognizing and understanding one’s own emotions. This includes the ability to differentiate between subtleties in one’s own emotions while understanding the cause of these emotions and the impact they have on the thoughts and actions of oneself and others.


Self-Expression Realm

Emotional Expression is openly expressing one’s feelings verbally and non-verbally.

Assertiveness involves communicating feelings, beliefs and thoughts openly, and defending personal rights and values in a socially acceptable, non-offensive, and non-destructive manner.

Independence is the ability to be self-directed and free from emotional dependency on others. Decision-making, planning, and daily tasks are completed autonomously.


Interpersonal Realm

Interpersonal Relationships refers to the skill of developing and maintaining mutually satisfying relationships that are characterized by trust and compassion.

Empathy is recognizing, understanding, and appreciating how other people feel. Empathy involves being able to articulate your understanding of another’s perspective and behaving in a way that respects others’ feelings.

Social Responsibility is willingly contributing to society, to one’s social groups, and generally to the welfare of others. Social Responsibility involves acting responsibly, having social consciousness, and showing concern for the greater community.


Decision Making Realm

Problem Solving is the ability to find solutions to problems in situations where emotions are involved. Problem solving includes the ability to understand how emotions impact decision making.

Reality Testing is the capacity to remain objective by seeing things as they really are. This capacity involves recognizing when emotions or personal bias can cause one to be less objective.

Impulse Control is the ability to resist or delay an impulse, drive or temptation to act and involves avoiding rash behaviors and decision making


Stress Management Realm

Flexibility is adapting emotions, thoughts and behaviors to unfamiliar, unpredictable, and dynamic circumstances or ideas.

Stress Tolerance involves coping with stressful or difficult situations and believing that one can manage or influence situations in a positive manner.

Optimism is an indicator of one’s positive attitude and outlook on life. It involves remaining hopeful and resilient, despite occasional setbacks.



Emotional Intelligence Building – Self Actualization “Goal Setting”

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Emotional Intelligence Theme: Self Actualization – definition

 By losing your goal, You have lost your way. Friedrich Nietzsche

Goal setting is such an overlooked, and underestimated, life task. It is so important to take time an ask yourself “Why am I doing this?” and “Where do I hope it takes me?”.

It is the people who take the time to really think about what they are doing in life, why they have chosen this path, where they are hoping to go…these are the people who find their way to success in their own life. Often, the people around them think that they are “lucky” or have advantages that they themselves do not have. When in reality, this is NOT true at all!

Success is the direct result of a little bit of planning, taking advantage of opportunities that show up and working around the obstacles when they fall directly into your planned path. If you don’t think, in detail, about your goals, you will most likely lose your way in the difficult times. Your goals help you make decisions about what is a priority and what can wait, what opportunities to take and ones to shelve and how to get yourself back from distraction and procrastination (You know you do it! Secretly…so do I, but my goals remind me why I am working this hard and get me back on track).


Start thinking about your goals in terms of the following SMART guide: Achievable Goals are SMART!

S – Specific: What is it, exactly, that I want to achieve?

M – Measurable: How will I know when I have achieved the goal?

A – Attainable: Is this a realistic and “doable” goal for me, and in the time frame?

R – Relevant: Is this even my goal? Is this even what I want?

T – Time Based: Do I have a time frame to achieve this goal? Time frame for the smaller lead up goals?


The most important thing it to analyze your goals so that you will procrastinate less and face the difficulties along the way 🙂

Feel free to contact me! 

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Doctoral Candidate, Counselling Psychology @ UofT

Success Coach * Professor * Counsellor

Mohawk College-Fennell Campus-“The Square“-C102/20

Building New Habits – Enhancing Your Emotional Intelligence

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When learning something new it can feel overwhelming and difficult. This TedTalk, “TRY SOMETHING NEW FOR 30 DAYS” by Matt Cutts is excellent. Check it out and be inspired to try something new, dare to have a different experience…become closer to the “you” that you were meant to be!

Weekly Study Tip: Work First Play Later!

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One of the most important things I learned in school was to get my homework done first and then go out with friends. This was very hard to learn, but was so worthwhile! Wanting to do homework was definitely not natural for me; I would way rather be with my friends.

Why do this? 

Why this was a helpful strategy is because when I was with my friends I could really relax and fully enjoy my “down time”. If I had work to do, and procrastinated, I was never really able to relax. Having a balance between the demands of school and time with friends is so important to your success. You need to let your brain relax once in a while so that it can do its job better.


Find interesting and fun study spots that you look forward to studying in. I love café’s and interesting spots on campus. Follow me on Instagram this semester! I will be putting up fun places, on and off campus, for you to try out. Try to make it as fun as it can be so that you don’t completely dread it.

I would love your feedback on this blog! Contact me anytime or meet with me in person 🙂

Follow me on Instagram! 


Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach * Professor * Counsellor

Mohawk College-Fennell Campus-“The Square“-C102/20

Study Skills Workshops @ Fennell!

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Check Out This Poster for Study Skills Workshops
Fennell Campus Fall 2014

Fennell Study Skills Workshops Fall 2014

“So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life’s A Great Balancing Act.

And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ¾ percent guaranteed) Kid, you’ll move mountains.”

 Dr. Seuss, Oh, The Places You’ll Go!

Success is yours for the taking if you show up in your own life. Attending a workshop can help you to be the most successful student.

Show up!

Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach * Counsellor * Professor

Fennell Campus – Mohawk College – The Square: C102/20

Study Smarts Workshops @ Mohawk-McMaster Institute of Applied Health Sciences

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Study Smart Workshop Series

Sept 15: Managing Your Time

Sept 22: Note Taking and Exam Preparation Skills

Sept 29: Multiple Choice Test Strategies

Oct 6: Managing Test Anxiety

For More Information:

Sudy Smarts Workshops – F2014 Mohawk-McMaster Institute of Applied Health Sciences


All workshops are on Monday’s

Room 203B

Mohawk-McMaster Institute of Applied Health Sciences

11:30 -12:30 pm

If you cannot attend a workshop, feel free to make an appointment with the

Counsellor through The Square or phone 905-540-4247 ext. 26107

Weekly Study Tip – Organization

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Organizing Your Questions & Thoughts

So, you are now 2 weeks into your semester and it can start to feel like so much information and expectations are coming at you too quickly. What I found useful in getting organized, was to carry a small notebook with tabbed sections for each class. In this notebook, I would write down what I didn’t understand or what questions I had for my professors after each class. This way, I knew what I needed to focus on. Also, this creates a handy list of questions that you can ask a Peer Tutor or your professor.

Did you know that you can book an appointment with a Mohawk Peer Tutor, for FREE!?!?

Yup, here is a link to the information to get you started: CLICK HERE for Peer Tutor Info.

Let me know if I can help you get more organized this year. Happy to help 🙂

Heather Drummond, M.Ed.

Success Coaching @ Mohawk College

Link to Counselling Services