Month: December 2014
Self-Knowledge is the Key to Success
The new year often brings a sense of a new start, seeing it as at time to change behaviours by setting New Year’s resolutions. Change is hard work and you need to be ready for it! This 3 part blog series will discuss level of readiness for change, how to successfully set goals and gaining the self-knowledge necessary to work with your strengths as you persist toward your goals.
Part #1: Are You Even Ready for Change?
The Transtheoretical Model, by Prochaska et al. (1994), describes change as a “process involving progress through a series of stages”. Before even getting started with your resolutions, you need to evaluate if you are even ready to change at this time. Change is hard work and success is increased if the reasons for change are clear and that they are coming from your own need to change, not outside expectations. Below is a description of the change process. Take a moment to evaluate your readiness to change at this time.
Stage 1: Pre-Contemplation (Not Ready For Change)
If you are at this stage, you are not intending to take action in the foreseeable future (within 6 months), and you are, most likely, unaware that your behaviour is problematic.
Stage 2: Contemplation (Getting Ready for Change)
If you are at this stage, you are beginning to recognize that your behaviour is problematic, and you start to look at the pros and cons of continuing on the same path. You recognize that changes in your thoughts and behaviours are important and there is an intention to start the change process within the next 6 months.
Stage 3: Preparation (Ready for Change)
If you are at this stage, you are intending to take action in the immediate future, and may begin taking small steps towards change, within the next 30 days.
Stage 4: Action (In the Process of Change)
If you are at this stage you have made specific modifications to your life style, and positive change has occurred; you are experiencing the rewards of your effort. Behavioural patterns have changed within the last 6 months, and you just need to work hard to keep moving ahead and staying on track.
Stage 5: Maintenance
If you are at this stage you are working to prevent a relapse, this is a stage that can last indefinitely. You have changed your behaviour more than 6 months ago and the rewards of your hard work are evident and motivation is high to maintain your achievement.
Eventually, people who have zero temptation, 100% self-efficacy (belief in self and ability) and are sure they will not return to their old unhealthy habit as a way of coping, can consider their new behaviour as a part of who they are, and how they operate, now.
Where are you at, right now, in the change process?
Part #2: Setting Goals That Fit For You
Part #3: Using Psychology to Increase YOUR Chances of Success
All the Best of this Holiday Season!
Dr. Heather Drummond, Ed.D. (Counselling Psychology)
Success Coach * Professor * Passionate Advocate for the Success of Students
SOURCE: Prochaska, J.O., Velicer, W.F, Rossi, J.S., Goldstein, M.G., Marcus, B.H., Rakowski, W. (1994) Stages of change and decisional balance for 12 problem behaviors. Health Psychology.13, 39-46
Yes, exam week is painful but it is not impossible to make it through successfully. Perspective is everything in successful survival. Exam week is pain is short term. Create an image of how great you will feel, and what life will be like, the moment you write your last exam. Relief….Freedom…Time with Friends…Rest….create a full image for yourself. THIS is what you are working toward; this is why you are in pain now.
“Will Work Hard for Freedom!”
Work First Play Later:
- There is a wonderful English saying, “just get stuck in” that describes the power of just getting started. Often, before you know it, you are “stuck in” the study phase, just by getting started. So, start with creating a study plan (what needs to be studied and when), open your books, shut off your justifying mind (shut down the generation of “10,000 reasons why I don’t feel like it” and replace it with “reasons why I will feel better once it’s done”) and just get started.
- Create a state of focus. Use music to study, ideally music without words. The power of music to motivate, focus and increase brain function when studying. The proof is in the science! Check out one of my previous Blogs: Baroque Music. Also, try Songza: “Working no Lyrics” Theme http://songza.com/
- Develop your study routine and organize your space.
- Tools: have your study tools accessible (favourite pens, calculator, computer, paper, highlighters, etc.). When you have to search for stuff, you are more likely to get distracted from your main task of studying.
- Study Space: try to set up a study place that remains the same throughout exam time, keep this space organized and only use it for studying. If you study on your bed, there are two triggered responses, sleep or study. I guarantee sleep will win if you study on your bed!
- Reward yourself often. There are no rules saying that studying must be completely painful. Take breaks, play video games, socialize, check your social media, watch a movie, etc. Work first…play later and reward yourself often. If you lessen the pain of studying, you are more likely to do it.
- Know that it is likely that you will be more “irrational”, and possibly prone to making bad decisions when you are one, or all of the following:
HALT! Stop! If you are feeling any of these. Go and eat something, find a way to deal with the anger, socialize or take a rest break. Student are more likely to give up, drop out or make any other irrational decision in these states.
- If you have a friend that you work well with, study with them. People can help you to keep on task, help you to take breaks when you need them and social connections can help make you feel less alone during this high stress time.
- Take Fun Breaks! To maximize your studying, consider taking a walk, take a power nap, chat with friends or even (large “GASP” is heard from the adults in your life) check Facebook/Twitter/Vine/Instagram. The point is to recharge your brain battery, give it a rest. The brain functions way better when it does a task switch. Once your tank of mental fuel is full again, get back to work. But this time, you’ll feel much more energized and ready to tackle the demands of test prep.
You are not alone, please reach out if you need to!
I would love to hear from you.
Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD (Counselling Psychology)