Ok, I will warn you in advance, today’s post is pretty PsychNerdy, but so important to your success as a college student; and really, it is important to your success as a human being.
Emotion Regulation is the platform from which you launch all of your academic skills. It’s true! Even researchers are finding this.
Well, let’s get started with describing it. Emotion regulation is the ability to regulate emotions by modulating emotional experience to attain desired affective states and adaptive outcomes. Translation: learn the language of your emotions, what they are telling you, listen to the message, learn how to apply strategies that help you calm down and focus with the goal of successfully completing the task at hand.
My favourite time 🙂
In one study, college students who scored higher on an assessment of their ability to regulate emotion reported having more positive relationships with others; less conflict and frustration in their relationship with a close friend; and stronger connections, affection, and support in their relationship with a parent (Lopes, Salovey, & Straus, 2003). So, emotion regulation helps in building stronger relationships, which is very important in navigating the college environment.
Here are some of the benefits of college relationships:
So, I assume you are wondering…
“well, great, how do I learn to manage my emotions!??!”
I am so glad you asked!
Super nerdy, but please give me a chance to explain 😉
People can learn to regulate their emotions by:
If you are feeling really nerdy and inspired, check out this interview with the amazing Dr. James Gross. He explains the Process Model of Emotion regulation very well…because it is his model 🙂
I will be blogging about all the cool ways you can learn to regulate your emotions. I will be sharing different strategies that come from highly supported therapeutic techniques. Here are some highlights:
If I haven’t sold you yet on the value of Emotion Regulation…Please take a moment to watch this amazing TedTalk.
“We’ll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to”
Please know that there are counsellors in your community that are available at low or no cost. Also, your post-secondary institutions have counsellors, for free, waiting for you to connect 🙂
At Mohawk, we have a great counselling team that is very passionate about helping students, so contact us! firstname.lastname@example.org or call 905-575-2211 to book an appointment.
Emotions are just little communication tools trying to tell you something
…learn to listen, communicate back and create a plan of action 🙂
Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD
eSuccess-Coach * Passionate Advocate for Student Success
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