Well, if you are a student you have probably had a pretty great two weeks of slowly getting back into the academic game and hanging with friends (maybe partying a wee bit too).
But hey, you have had no assignments due, so what’s the rush right?!?
There is no need to continue freaking out and making some bad decisions, like pretending that assignments will magically be completed or skipping classes because it lowers your anxiety level. I have some ideas to help you dial down the freakout, channel this energy, use your powers for good and get some traction.
This is the time to SHOW UP IN YOUR OWN LIFE or “Adulting” as some of you like to call it. FYI “adulting” actually means that you have free will, control over your own life, the master of your domain, can make choices on your own, the only one nagging you is you…yada yada…it is a pretty sweet state to be in, so stop the hating and avoiding 😉
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I’m sorry, this nerd just needs to be a wee bit PsychNerdy to make a point 😉
Locus of Control (LOC) is a concept that was developed by a pretty smart social psychologist Dr. Julian Rotter in 1954. It is a social learning theory that has been well tested and still holds up today. LOC considers the tendency of people to believe that control resides internally within them, or externally, with others or the situation.
So I bet you are wondering if you have an internal or external LOC?!?
Maybe not, but stick with me, it is good for you 🙂
People with a high internal locus of control believe in their own ability to control themselves and influence the world around them. They see their future as being in their own hands and that their own choices lead to success or failure. (Source)
*They believe in their ability to change things.
*They tend to be more confident.
*They can kick their own butts when procrastination gets out of control.
People with a high external locus of control believe that control over events and what other people do is outside them, and that they personally have little or no control over such things. They may even believe that others have control over them and that they can do nothing but obey. (Source)
*They tend to view things happening TO them and having little or no control over the situation.
*They tend to passively accept what is happening and do nothing about it.
*They tend to just give up when life gets rough, or until someone kicks their butt for them 😉
This is the first step in understanding your explanatory style, or way understanding the world and being in the world, so that you can start to build resilience (Internal Locus of Control). It is a shift in thinking, reactions and skills.
*whoops my 90s child slipped out 😉 Just for fun…
Ok, now back to semi-serious stuff. Check out this goal setting system that is scientifically proven to get you moving on your next steps toward badass-ary.
“WOOP” is a strategy that Dr. Gabriele Oettingen, a professor at New York University (NYU) and her colleagues developed. It is a scientific badass approach to getting your life on track and reaching your goals. WOOP stands for…
*The less-catchy term is “mental contrasting.” Ok, no more nerdy stuff from me 😉
“WOOP: 4 Steps to Achieve Your Goals”
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Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD (Counselling Psychology)
eSuccess-Coach * Passionate Advocate for Student Success