12 Things that Happy People Do Differently
#10 Happy People Savour Life’s Joys
Happiness cannot exist without slowing down to “enjoy the joy”. Taking time to smell those proverbial roses! I know, I hear you…it is hard to savour when you are trying to survive and wade through knee high academic and life demands. “But research suggests we don’t always use the best strategies to feel good. In fact some strategies heighten good feelings and overall satisfaction, while others can reduce them” (Quoidbach et al. (2010) on PsyBlog). Taking the time to savour, could possibly give you the energy and ability to be more successful at navigating all your life demands.
Try it out…even just a moment a day…
Check out some tips from my favourite Social Psychologist Blogger…
4 Life-Savouring Strategies: Which Ones Work Best?
Read more about the 4 Life Savouring Strategies on Dr. Jeremy Dean’s Blog: PsyBlog
12 Things that Happy People Do Differently
#9 Happy People Commit to Their Goals
Being wholeheartedly dedicated to and focused on doing something that is important to you can become such a powerful force that can be generalized throughout your life. Amazing things, such as developing a stronger sense of confidence and competence, start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere. I think the two most important qualities of success are focus and concentration. Focus means knowing exactly what it is you want and concentration means having the discipline to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing until it is complete. That is the difference between people who are successful and those who struggle in this area.
For a little help getting started, check out my link to S.M.A.R.T Goal Setting (PDF) to get you moving!
Some rules are made to be broken. Just think about all the social advances we have made as humans, over the past 100 years, that have made us more compassionate and resilient.
Some of your personal “rules” may be holding you back from being successful. Learn to examine your “Shoulds” and check out the Reality Testing module in your Mohawk College eLearn portal under Success Coaching @ Mohawk College.
or Click Here for the Reality Testing Tip Sheet (PDF of the Module)
Theme: Interpersonal Relationship – Why Other People Irritate Us
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Carl Gustav Jung
eLearn Module: Interpersonal Relationship Module
As a counsellor, I am seeing loads of stressed out students these days which is completely normal given the time of year in the academic calendar. So, if you are irritated you are normal! Everything seems to have a due date that is NOW! Ugh! With stress in the academic air, people are much more irritated than normal. But…there is a more productive way to approach this time of year. This is one of the secrets of successful students; learning to use their emotional reactions as information for change, or to implement a well used strategy, rather than just reacting.
The presence of people in your life, whether it is a classmate, family, friends or even professors, all provide valuable information about you as a person and student by simply being in your life and you reacting to their presence.
Use this information from your interpersonal reactions to learn more about yourself!
Today…Start Exploring Your Irritation…
1. Next time you interact with someone, notice how you are feeling physically (e.g. knot in your stomach, muscle tension, rigid posture, aggressive stance, inner shaking) and emotionally (e.g. anxious, upset, irritated, annoyed, jealous, impatient).
2. Ask yourself what you can learn from this person; what is he or she doing that upsets me?Apply that information to yourself and ask, “How am I similar to that?”
3. Observe yourself in different situations or ask someone you trust if you don’t readily see it.
4. Sometimes, after you have analyzed the emotional impact, you may find that you simply need better boundaries with this person (come see a counsellor here at Mohawk to help you with establishing healthy interpersonal boundaries that contribute to your success)
Often, realizing that we may do the same thing as another person helps us de-escalate our irritation and replace it with understanding. Living with a lower irritation level can have such beneficial side effects such as lowering the amount of times you feel overwhelmed and incapable of coping with your academic load.
Remember to sign up for the eLearn modules by clicking on the SELF REGISTRATION link on your eLearn home page. Take the Interpersonal Relationshipfrom the eLearn Module under the same name and check out the rest of the module because I have more hints, tips and tricks that can help you stretch and grow in the area of Reality Testing. Come on! Join me in this “become the best version of “you” journey!
Heather Drummond, M.Ed. (Counselling Psychology)
Success Coach @ Mohawk College