Resilience

Whoops! Been Procrastinating? Channel Your Inner Badass!

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Well, if you are a student you have probably had a pretty great two weeks of slowly getting back into the academic game and hanging with friends (maybe partying a wee bit too).

But hey, you have had no assignments due, so what’s the rush right?!?

Wait what!??!

How did October get here so quickly!??!

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Ok, now that I have your your attention

and your adrenaline is sufficiently high!

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There is no need to continue freaking out and making some bad decisions, like pretending that assignments will magically be completed or skipping classes because it lowers your anxiety level. I have some ideas to help you dial down the freakout, channel this energy, use your powers for good and get some traction.


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This is the time to SHOW UP IN YOUR OWN LIFE or “Adulting” as some of you like to call it. FYI “adulting” actually means that you have free will, control over your own life, the master of your domain, can make choices on your own, the only one nagging you is you…yada yada…it is a pretty sweet state to be in, so stop the hating and avoiding 😉

Let’s Build an…

Internal Locus of Control

 


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I’m sorry, this nerd just needs to be a wee bit PsychNerdy to make a point 😉

Locus of Control (LOC) is a concept that was developed by a pretty smart social psychologist Dr. Julian Rotter in 1954. It is a social learning theory that has been well tested and still holds up today. LOC considers the tendency of people to believe that control resides internally within them, or externally, with others or the situation.

So I bet you are wondering if you have an internal or external LOC?!?

Maybe not, but stick with me, it is good for you 🙂

Internal LOC

People with a high internal locus of control believe in their own ability to control themselves and influence the world around them. They see their future as being in their own hands and that their own choices lead to success or failure. (Source)

*They believe in their ability to change things.

*They tend to be more confident.

*They can kick their own butts when procrastination gets out of control.

External LOC

People with a high external locus of control believe that control over events and what other people do is outside them, and that they personally have little or no control over such things. They may even believe that others have control over them and that they can do nothing but obey. (Source)

*They tend to view things happening TO them and having little or no control over the situation.

*They tend to passively accept what is happening and do nothing about it.

*They tend to just give up when life gets rough, or until someone kicks their butt for them 😉


Take LOC Test!

This is the first step in understanding your explanatory style, or way understanding the world and being in the world, so that you can start to build resilience (Internal Locus of Control). It is a shift in thinking, reactions and skills.


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Whoop There it Is!

*whoops my 90s child slipped out 😉 Just for fun…

Ok, now back to semi-serious stuff. Check out this goal setting system that is scientifically proven to get you moving on your next steps toward badass-ary.

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“WOOP” is a strategy that Dr. Gabriele Oettingen, a professor at New York University (NYU) and her colleagues developed. It is a scientific badass approach to getting your life on track and reaching your goals. WOOP stands for…

Wish

Outcome

Obstacle

Plan

*The less-catchy term is “mental contrasting.” Ok, no more nerdy stuff from me 😉


Getting Starting WOOPing

Listen to This

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Hidden Brain Podcast

“WOOP: 4 Steps to Achieve Your Goals”

Watch This

Read This

WOOP In My Life


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Tell me stories about your badassary!

Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD (Counselling Psychology)

eSuccess-Coach * Passionate Advocate for Student Success

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

 

Resilience: Starting School With a Kick Butt Attitude!

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Happy ACADEMIC NEW YEAR!!!

What I love most about working in a college is the September fresh start. The exciting beginning of something new, the wonderful feeling of “I’ve got this!”, “it’s gonna be different this year”, “I’m going to be way more organized this time”. You get the chance to try new strategies which will take a wee bit more effort than just positive thinking. You have to do things differently if you want a different outcome.

The biggest risk to your success is the mental baggage that you are carrying around, probably subconsciously, in that wonderful brain of yours.

Often the focus is on all of your…

…and virtually none of the positive things that you have done to get this far in life and all the way to college! Good work BTW 🙂


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So, I wanted to start this academic year off by kicking the butt of self-doubt and procrastination hard with mind control….mahwahahaha >;)

No seriously, we can master our minds!

The first challenge I have for you is to begin the process of thinking about failure in a different way. To get you started on this epic mind shift, start by working on thinking about failure in a different way, like these successful folks do.


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Don’t Give Up!

One of the most important skills to build on your road to achieving your goals is resilience. Before you apply your time management strategies, before you start attacking your textbook readings, even before you start your classes, start thinking about building a mindset that is ready for the resilience building journey.


PsycNerdy Time!

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In modern research psychology it has become popular to use the word GRIT to describe a form of resilience. Dr. Angela Duckworth is a pretty incredible social psychology researcher on GRIT and she describes it as “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.” I think it takes resilience to bounce back from failure to persevere through adversity and maintain your focus and passion on the path toward your goals. If you want to learn more about GRIT, check out her TedTalk!


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Courage, bravery, backbone, spirit, “strength of character”, willful, moral fiber, nerve, fortitude, toughness, hardiness, resolve, resolution, determination, tenacity, perseverance, endurance, guts & spunk!

 


“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving,

we get stronger and more resilient”


Let’s Get GRITTY and Resilient!

I want to use this awesome award winning video short created by Alan Barillaro, a Canadian and a Sheridan College graduate. The short involves a hungry baby sandpiper learning to overcome her fear of the water.

This video is such a brilliant way to show how people can learn their way through their fears and create the opportunity to develop to their fullest potential.


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Think about a time in your life that was particularly challenging or demanding, especially one that was difficult emotionally. Think about how you handled that situation and eventually came through on the other side.

Answer these questions:

  • What was your goal?
  • What was the outcome?
  • What obstacles did you have to overcome?
  • What unpleasant feelings and thoughts do you remember having in the situation?
  • Who, if anyone, did you receive external help and support from?
  • What specific attitudes and skills helped you cope with the situation?
  • How would you rate your resilience in that situation?
  • Why wasn’t it 0%?
  • What strengths and personal qualities helped you?
  • If it wasn’t 100%, how could your resilience be improved during similar situations in the future?
  • Based on your experience how might you advise someone else to cope with a similar situation in the future?

 

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Since life is not going to get any easier, we need to get stronger to deal with it. 

The big secret to success is sticking around long enough to see all your hard work turn into something great. Essentially, getting your butt handed to you and saying, “ok, that happened, sigh, now what do I need to do next?”


Please feel comfortable emailing me or commenting on this post. I love hearing your feedback and suggestions for topics!

Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD (Counselling Psychology)

eSuccess-Coach * Passionate Advocate for Student Success

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

Hardwiring Happiness: Take the Leap, Really, It’s Worth the Risk

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Today I want to talk about your brain, your wonderful beautiful changeable brain. I am hoping that you will take in what I say today, not with defensiveness or with the notion that I am in anyway blaming you, or people who are suffering, but with the intention of helping you become empowered in your own healing.

I have been working in the mental health field since 1996, in various capacities, with all ages and backgrounds of wonderful humans. What I do know is that people can become incredibly resilient if we get out of the way and let the process take flight. Please do not misunderstand my message in today’s post and think that I am against medication, because I am definitely not. I am just opposed to the notion that medication is all that is needed in the mental wellbeing and healing process. If we want to change/grow, we need to do the work. Period. Full stop. Some of the most inspiring humans that I have met along my own journey are folks who have come from, and through, extreme adversity. Whether that be childhood trauma at the hands of a trusted adult or being born into a country that is in unimaginable crisis, these people found the strength to move through and flourish. I have learned so much from their stories of perseverance, letting go, letting be and growth after the trauma. It seems that if we have to endure adverse circumstances, we can, if we let ourselves face it and grow from it.

Ok, there it is, my point of view (which is shared by many incredible research psychologists and counsellors/therapists/mental health interveners). So, if you are in for the most amazing ride of your life, and feeling close to taking on the challenge of change, let’s start with a framing mindset for today.

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MINDSET for Today:

I am jumping in with everything have,

whether I sink or swim,

at least I took that leap of faith.

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*This statement inspires me and calms my soul.

I would love to have a very wise woman, like Dr. Maya Angelou say this to me when I am going through hell or a crisis of confidence in my life. It is her voice I hear.

 


PsychNerd Time!

Brain NerdI am calling in the big guns so that you believe little ol’ me when I say that you CAN actually change your brain. I want to share with you some tidbits from a book I recently read, by the oneHardwiring-Happiness and only, incredible neuropsychologist Dr. Rick Hansen, Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence (2013). I know, I know, you’re probably thinking that this is, yet another self-help book telling you that the answer to all your troubles is to just “think positive!”…and how do I do that again, you ask?!?! Well, this book presents the latest neuroscience research behind happiness and explains how you can reprogram your brain to focus on the good, rather than obsessing over the bad.


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Highlights from the Book….

I want to give you one quick tip from this book to get you started. If you are ready to change, and in the mindset for taking on the hard work of leaping toward what your life could be like, then I highly suggest you buy this book (I am not receiving any kickbacks from this, just think this is a great resource). The most important reason to spend your money on this life guide is that Rick Hansen talks about the importance of “taking in the good”, how this practice can change your brain and how to do this.

  • Take in the Good: This is a deliberate practice of making positive experiences stick around a little longer and linger in our implicit memory (part of our long term memory). He has created four steps to help you take in the good, which are easy to remember with the helpful acronym, HEAL.

Have a positive experience.
Enrich it.
Absorb it.
Link positive and negative material.

*Check out chapter 3, page 60, to learn how to do this.


My Advice for Today

Stop focusing on what could go wrong, and start focusing on what could go right.

Negative is not “more true” than than positive.

ALSO…

According to this Happiness Study: 52% of your life destiny is up to you and what you do to enhance it, despite your genetic background.

ASK YOURSELF…

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Believe me from my professional experience and my personal journey

…the risk is definitely worth it!

Read Hardwiring Happiness…and live your best life.


Leave a comment, question or feedback…share your experience 🙂

Dr. Heather Drummond, EdD (Counselling Psychology)

eSuccess-Coach * Passionate Advocate for Student Success

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

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Procrastination Survey – Take it and Figure out Your Procrastination Patterns!!

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There is an excellent book that I use all the time with students called, The Procrastination Workbook by William Knaus, Ed.D. I highly recommend buying it if you are really serious about curbing your procrastination. I will be using the Procrastination Survey from this book and sharing strategies to work with the 14 Procrastination Patterns and the 6 Procrastination Triggers.

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Take the Procrastination Survey so that you have a better idea of you patterns and triggers. I will start blogging about these next week.

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I would love to hear from you, feel free to contact me if you would like to chat further about the posts!

Your Success Coach,

Dr. Heather Drummond, Ed.D. (Counselling Psychology)

Success Coach * Professor * Counsellor

Mohawk College-Fennell Campus-“The Square“-C102/20

heather.drummond@mohawkcollege.ca

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